Overcoming Toxic Anger
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Acts 5.41 records, they left the council rejoicing because they had been considered worthy to suffer dishonor for the sake of the name.
The Church was able to grow from a handful of believers in Jesus into a world wide religion because it has been willing to suffer dishonor for the proclamation of Jesus as the only God and Savior of the world. When the Church has lost influence it has been the result of those who profess Jesus as Savior privately being afraid to do so publicly lest they suffer for proclaiming His ways.
America is currently in a Christian moral decline. The great Christian influencers of the past have gone and most of those who privately confess Christianity and are leaders in business, education, media and government are afraid to identify themselves with the ways of Jesus lest they suffer prestige and revenue. If we wont identify with Jesus from fear of losing reputation or finances what do we truly love more? Ourselves and our money or God?
Recently a hundred year plus organization with Christian roots made a special promotion for the LGBTQ community. Why? It is politically expedient to do so certainly. While most of this organization’s leaders still privately profess Christian values their public works deny the God they supposedly serve. It’s not that members of the LGBTQ shouldn’t be loved or served by this or any other Christian business, they should. It’s that this Christian organization should not go out of its way to endorse their lifestyle if they adhere to the rules of God Who declared the practice of LGBTQ to be offensive to Him.
All disobedience to God is punishable by death and was punished by God upon Jesus at the cross. The appropriation of God’s pardon to His people for their disobedience requires a repentance from disobedience and a submission to obedience to God. An obedience made possible now by the Spirit of God Who works within God’s people to accomplish His will which conforms to His Word.
If the world is to move closer to Jesus, if the Church is to regain its influence in the world, Christians will have to return to a willingness to suffer dishonor for appropriating and proclaiming the ways of God in Jesus Christ. The longer we wait the harder it will be when finally courageous men and women begin to do so.
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July 24, 2017
Overcoming Toxic Anger
by Rick Boxx
Years ago, my boss at the time appointed me to chair a taskforce to address a major problem in our company. For me, this became a political landmine, a classic no-win situation. My boss was likely hoping I would protect him from the possible fallout of the taskforce’s decision, but I did not.
In its findings, the taskforce concluded the real issue was my boss’s approach to the problem we had been researching. Soon after my report was finalized and submitted, I received a demotion. My boss, who had been an advocate for me, became my enemy.
For more than two years I fostered a toxic anger towards him. I felt unjustly treated and maligned. I had become the scapegoat for a problem of my boss’s own making. Seeking to strike back and gain a measure of revenge, every time I had an opportunity, I bad-mouthed this man to others.
After carrying this weight of anger and bitterness, with no hope of the executive ever offering to correct the wrong he had done to me, I came to a startling, yet freeing realization: My anger had been hurting me much more than it had affected him. Even if my negative comments succeeded in diminishing my boss in the eyes of others, my anger was not appeased.
Then I began to do something I should have considered much sooner – I determined to read, meditate on, and apply what the Bible teaches about anger, justified or not. For instance, Ephesians 4:26 teaches, “Be angry, and yet do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and do not give the devil an opportunity.” Thinking about his exhortation, it occurred to me that the sun had literally gone down on my anger hundreds of times, and the festering bitterness I had continued to feel was giving the devil ample opportunity to undermine what God was trying to do in me and through me.
Then I began pondering Matthew 6:15-16, in which Jesus states, “For if you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions.” Those were hard words to read; as I pointed an accusing finger toward my one-time boss, it seemed the other fingers on my hand were pointing back at me. Pondering this, the Lord convicted me that since I had not forgiven my former boss, why should I expect God to forgive me for my many sins? I realized that in addition to forgiving my ex-boss – even if he never asked for it – I also needed to ask God to forgive me for many things, including my unforgiving spirit.
To determine what God wanted me to do next, I read Matthew 5:23-24, in which Jesus says, “Therefore if you are presenting your offering at the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your offering there before the altar and go; first be reconciled to your brother, and then come and present your offering.”
More than two years since my anger began, I finally started the process of reconciliation by calling my former boss – and asking his forgiveness. That did not fix what he had done, but at last I was free of the toxic anger and its devastating effects. Anger is an emotional cancer whose cure is forgiveness.
Copyright 2017, Integrity Resource Center, Inc. Adapted with permission from “Integrity Moments with Rick Boxx,” a commentary on issues of integrity in the workplace from a Christian perspective. To learn more about Integrity Resource Center or to sign up for Rick’s daily Integrity Moments, visit www.integrityresource.org (http://www.integrityresource.org/) . His new book, Unconventional Business, provides “Five Keys to Growing a Business God’s Way.”
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